How to Enjoy Thanksgiving without Overeating, Binging or Feeling Guilty

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Canadian Thanksgiving Is this weekend, and American Thanksgiving is not far behind!

Thanksgiving and other special occasions are usually events that are celebrated with food…and LOTS of it. It’s a time where we joke about bringing a pair of sweat pants so we can let our bellies purposely expand.

Do you feel fearful about losing control with food when it comes to celebrations?

  • Maybe you are scared that if you eat food that you normally view as “bad”, or a “big no-no” in your nutrition plan, you know you won’t be able to stop eating and eating.
  • If you count macros or calories, maybe you stress about how to keep track of your numbers if you do not know exactly how many calories, points, macros, etc grandma’s homemade food is.
  • Maybe you starve yourself all day just to save your calories for the huge Turkey Dinner, and then end up feeling painfully uncomfortable because you overate three times over.
  • Maybe you feel so guilty for eating so much food that the next day you over-exercise to work off all the “damage”.
  • You may find yourself increasingly anxious as Thanksgiving approaches, and you work extra hard at the gym so that you can allow yourself to eat the Turkey dinner.
  • You can’t stop focusing on the number on that scale, and you feel so anxious about gaining weight that you just stay so obsessed about not letting that number on the scale move up, and as a result, feel anxious and stressed overall.

What do all the above scenarios have in common? It all involves how much energy is revolved around your relationship with food and body image. I personally have suffered from all the above situations in the past, and it’s exhausting! So much energy is put into maintaining a certain number on the scale and a certain physique, and I thought the answer was just about what I put in my mouth. So I developed a rigid mindset where I only allowed myself to eat extremely clean foods and would punish myself with destructive self-talk if I ate something that was “not healthy”.

So I’m writing this post because if you can relate to the above situations, I’m reaching out to let you know that there’s hope and you can get out of this love-hate relationship with food.

Here are some guidelines on how to approach Thanksgiving in a proactive way:

  • Create a daily mindful ritual that helps you feel grounded first thing in the morning.
    • I personally apply my Young Living Essential Oils “Joy” and “Abundance” on, and say a positive affirmation that helps me feel into my Higher (Empowered) Self. I start my day in responding mode, rather than reacting mode. Feeling grounded first thing in the morning allows you to build your tolerance to stress.  (start your free account with Young Living so you can receive 24% off retail price and get them delivered straight to your home!)
    • I suggest not to check your emails first thing in the morning because then you are setting yourself up for starting your day in reaction mode. This just creates stress.
  • Eat normally as if you would everyday. Nourish your body, eat regular macro-nutrient balanced meals throughout the day.
  • Drink lots of water throughout the day, you can squeeze fresh lemon in there for improving your digestion and flavour. You can also use Young Living Essential oils in here such as lime, lemon or grapefruit.
  • Move your body because you are respecting it, not because you fear food, fear body fat or are punishing your body.
  • When it comes to the actual celebration meal, here are some ways to prep:
    • Mentally: Prep yourself by telling yourself that the focus is about staying in JOY and CONNECTION with others. Put the social in the foreground, and food in the background.  Give yourself permission to enjoy the food – do not worry about staying within your macros, calories, points, etc. The more stress you put on yourself, the less you will enjoy the overall experience. Thanksgiving is a time to truly focus on gratitude- be thankful for all that you have in your life, keep this as the focus.
    •  Emotionally: Take deep breaths, if you have time, engage in your morning ritual by stating your affirmation and breathing in and applying essential oils, bring them with you as tools to soothe. Or if you don’t use oils, have an image of something calming to come back to in your mind when you start to feel stressed or anxious.
    • Physically: Eat mindfully and slowly, really let yourself savour the food.
    • Spiritually: Stay in connection with yourself, checking in with your level of anxiety and calming down if you notice the anxiety is rising.

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Holistic Body Love – Your Secret Weapon Against Eating Disorder

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In honor of the Eating Disorders Awareness Week (Feb 1 -7), I wanted to share with you my message and story of recovery from ” disordered eating”, in hopes of inspiring you to deepen your own sense of health, wellness, balance, and self-love.

The 5 Realms of Holistic Body Love

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Holistic Body Love to me, is about being in a healthy relationship with yourself in five important realms of life: mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually & socially.

Let’s define these five areas:

  1. Mental: This is our self-talk, what it is we say to ourselves about ourselves. Ideally, we want to be engaging in positive self-talk significantly more than negative self-talk.
  2. Emotional: This is the way we feel about ourselves, and the ability to regulate one’s own emotions well. The way we think about ourselves leads to how we feel about ourselves.
  3. Physical: This involves our physical body, not in appearance, but rather with the health condition of our body. For example, a strong immune system, organs that function well, a body that’s well nourished with nutrients, a body that has abundant energy to thrive.
  4. Spiritual: This area can have multiple meanings. For some, it would be one’s own ability to tune into their intuitive wisdom. For others, it may be their connection with a Higher Power. Essentially, it is the ability to see the bigger picture and connect with sacred aspects of life, so that life has fulfillment through deeper meaning and purpose.
  5. Social: We are social creatures at the very core of us, meaning we all need a connection with people to heal. We are influenced every day by relationships and dynamics in our home, work, school, and  life environments.

I see that having a balance in these five realms can help us feel more present, grounded, and empowered in who we are as an individual, and in the various roles we take on. Continue reading

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A New Take on Body Positivity: When You Know You Are Enough & Still Want 6 Pack Abs

Last week, I was brushing my teeth, happily staring at my naked body in my full length 3 door closet mirrors that spreads across the whole wall of our bathroom, chatting with my hubby, who’s on a mission to run an 80 km (YES 80!!!! That’s NOT a typo!!!!) Ultramarathon this year.

My hubby also does not look like your typical, super lean runner.

He actually looks like a sexy (to me!) mountain man – stocky, thick and well, has what society is calling “Dadbod” (if you don’t know what that is, google it) 😉

My hubby is also an amazing runner, already completing impressive times for previous 50 km ultra marathons (ok, and the fact that he even runs and completes ultra marathons is amazing enough!!!)

My hubby also HATES weight training.

He says to me, “I am going to need to clean up my nutrition to lose some weight so I can perform better”.

Me: Sure if that’s what you want to do, hon. I’ll support you.

You see, my hubby has a “normal” relationship with food- he doesn’t ever worry about eating the “wrong” kinds of foods and if he overeats, he doesn’t beat himself up. He rarely has food hangovers if he over does it on sugar. He sometimes craves chocolate when he’s stressed, but it’s not a huge issue. Overall, he’s has a pretty nutritious diet. Continue reading

Journeying from Hollywood to Healthy

Journey from Hollywood to HealthyWhen The Zeit contacted me with an invite to become a contributor, I was beyond excited that my writing style & my one-month-old baby blog, The Gist of Life, had caught the attention of such a fantastic site showcasing relevant, honest insights into self care – both mental & physical. I started researching The Zeit & pretty soon jumped from ‘beyond excited’ to full on, knock-my-socks-off THRILLED when I found the following on the About page in regards to the health industry:

“…There are a lot of truly dedicated individuals and organizations that are sincere and have good products, advice, and services. However, it takes knowledge to know what is real and what is not. Knowledge is power and we at The-Zeit want to furnish you with the knowledge so you are able to make all the right choices.”

To share a little about myself, I’ve spent the last several years as an actress in Los Angeles. You’ve seen me on FOX, Lifetime, Disney Channel, ABC Daytime, among other places. You know what that means? My entire world has been a game of “what is real and what is not” for quite some time now. Because in Hollywood, if you can’t tell the difference between real and fake, then you’re doing something right. Right? Continue reading

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The Friend I Couldn’t Save

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Asmariya had the sweetest smile which I can only compare to an upside down rainbow. Looking back when we way both growing up in Dubai I am tempted to say she was one of my closest friends. When we were about twelve something happened to her and up to this day I am not sure I can describe it.

Asmariya had lost so much weight and she had lost her smile; her beautiful upside down rainbow was now a black cloud of tears. She hardly talked and she kept calling herself ugly. Her parents went from being pissed off at her to crying. I had never seen a proud Arab man cry before.

Some said she was possessed or had encountered the “evil eye”. Whatever the case she was misunderstood. When I was 15 I had to return to Mombasa (on the coast of Kenya). I never saw Asmariya again and I never will because she is no longer with us. Continue reading