A Life Coach’s Guide to Living by Choice not by Chance

Each day we make choices that influence our pace and quality of life, and many of these are unconscious. While it’s a good thing we don’t have to think about every little choice we make, when it comes to creating a whole, fulfilled, balance between work-related activities and the rest-of-our-life activities… it’s a good idea to wake up and smell the proverbial coffee. Otherwise, we can find ourselves living with the effect of our choices such as feeling overwhelmed, stressed, unhealthy, or out of control.

making choices

“May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.”-Nelson Mandela

This is not about right or wrong, good or bad. I believe there are no mistakes, simply lessons learned. Living by choice, not by chance requires us to take responsibility for our own life. We get to choose if our experiences will be a sentence, paragraph, page or a chapter(s) in our life’s story.

So let’s get started…shall we?


Do the following calculation:

  • Subtract your current age from 90
  • Add two zeros to the answer
  • Divide that number in two

*This is roughly how many weeks you have left on this Earth, assuming you live to a very ripe old age.

If you smoke and don’t look after yourself properly, subtract 1,200 weeks.

It’s time to live by choice, not by chance. Here’s how:

LET GO: Release those people, places and things that no longer serve you. You have the power to forgive an apology you never received, past hurts that keep you resentful, and folks that drain your energy. Let go. Start anew.

CHECKLIST of things to let go:

  • Toxicity
  • Clutter
  • Blocks
  • Negativity
  • Comparison
  • Need to Please
  • Distractions
  • Old Belief System
  • Anger/Resentment
  • Ego

QUESTION: If not now, when?

ACTION: Let go of something that no longer serves you


BE INTENTIONAL: Setting a daily intention allows you to put a spotlight on your values and belief system. You have the opportunity to zoom in …focus on what you want your day to look like and execute it.

QUESTION: How will I show up today?

ACTION: Set an intention before leaving your home and revisit it throughout the day.


STRENGTHS: Use your time to be the best version of yourself. We live in a world of duality, so in any given moment live your higher self to gain the momentum in life you desire.

QUESTION: What are your top 5 strengths? Not sure?

Go to www.strengthsfinder.com to get your top strengths (there is a fee)

ACTION: Live your strengths, not your weaknesses.


BE DECISIVE: As a Lifestyle Coach, I get asked this question all the time, how do I make a decision and stick with it? When I’m coaching a client on decisiveness, I use a special technique that helps to find the space between head and heart to make fast decisions and be ok with the outcome. Again, find the space between what your head is telling you and your heart desires.

QUESTION: What do I really want at this very moment?

ACTION: Instead of putting that decision off to the side, face it head on by listening to head and heart to get the answer.


FREEDOM: Inner and Outer freedom is an essential ingredient to living by choice, not by chance. This takes practice, trust, and conscious living. Freedom means living in truth. Give yourself the opportunity to experience life through freedom #BestThingEver

QUESTION: How can I eliminate self-deceit?

ACTION: Get quiet and listen to your inner wisdom…it guides your outer freedom.


RITUAL: Creating daily habits puts all of the things you want to be and do into practice. Starting a new ritual creates a shift in your perspective and expands how you see your world around you.

QUESTION: What’s working for me, and what’s not?

ACTION: Plan your spring ritual; make life work for you rather than against you.


REFLECT: Reflecting on every area of your life provides opportunity for growth. Assessing where you’ve been, where you are, and where you want to be, gives checkpoints to your ultimate destination.

QUESTION: How can I get to where I want to be, in less time and more effectively?

ACTION: Write a goal in your journal, reflect on your writings and execute a plan to reach that goal in less time, more effectively.


To sum it all up, be at the cause, instead of the effect of your life. You are the head, not the tail. Write your own life story. You are the captain of the ship. How you show up in your life determines the outcome. It’s all about you!

  • Self Talk
  • Self Trust
  • Self Worth
  • Self Awareness
  • Self Acceptance
  • Self Reflection

SUMMARY QUESTION: How can I teach someone how to treat me, if I don’t know how to treat myself?

SUMMARY ACTION: Simplify your daily routine. Here’s an example of how I simplify:

Morning:  Inspiration

Afternoon:  Motivation

Evening:  Information//Education


Learn to love yourself, and all that you’ve been created to be. You are perfectly imperfect!

Words inspire me, so I’ve created 100 free printables/screensavers for your entertainment.

No sign up required! Share your favorite printable/screensaver using #ImWorthIt


Here’s to a masterful 2016!


Stacia Ngoh, CPC, ELI-MP

Stacia is a speaker, facilitator, certified professional life and leadership coach who specializes in Self Mastery and Life Balance. Not only is Stacia a wife to her hubby of eighteen years and mother to her seventeen-year-old son, she is also the founder of and head coach at Good 2 Great Life Coaching 4 Women. Her primary purpose for her coaching practice is to offer women systematic step by step ways to succeed in their personal and professional lives through private coaching, group coaching, and workshops.

Stacia recognizes and embraces the many roles women play on a day-to-day basis, from wife, mother, colleague, friend to getting to know one’s self, leading others and building healthy meaningful relationships. Her unique approach to helping women harmonize their inner and outer world is simply inspiring. Be motivated. Be empowered. Be Inspired to Become A Masterful You!

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